Resources
• Connect with Me
• Websites of Interest
• Perspectives
• Opioids
• Tools
• No Limits Showcase
• Medical Stuff
• Self-Care
• Humor
• Recommended Books
• General Coaching Stuff
• The Right Coach for You
Connect with Me
If you are new, schedule a consultation with me here: https://coachcara.as.me/consultation
If you are a current client, schedule a consultation with me here: https://coachcara.as.me/established
Contact me directly – my phone number is 802-448-0701 or email me
Stay in touch with me through my newsletter
Speaking and Workshops: https://coachcara.as.me/meeting
My video interview with coach Rosane Gibson about staying positive while chronically ill: https://youtu.be/j4TaKNsvW1U
My video for Bernie Sanders about personal implications of proposed budget cuts: https://www.facebook.com/senatorsanders/videos/10156765342702908/
Websites of Interest
About disability, disease, and mental health: https://themighty.com/
Pain News Network: https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/
Local disability services: http://www.ilru.org/home
Pain Management: https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/
Disability Studies Quarterly: http://dsq-sds.org/
American Chronic Pain Association: https://www.theacpa.org/
The Pain Relief Foundation: http://www.thepainrelieffoundation.com/
Annie Elainey YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCznS4Pk3VcTIfDUuWrQtdzQ
Perspectives
The Spoon Theory – language to help healthy people understand your energy limits: https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/
Stephen Hawking’s Disability Wasn’t Something To ‘Overcome”: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/opinion-ratcliff-hawking-ableism_us_5aaa8c5ee4b045cd0a6f6f2d
Euphemisms for Disability are Infantilizing: https://crippledscholar.com/2017/11/12/euphemisms-for-disability-are-infantalizing/
Six Ways of Looking at Crip Time: http://dsq-sds.org/article/view/5824/4684
Six Common Misconceptions about the Chronically Ill: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-gold/201312/six-common-misconceptions-about-the-chronically-ill
What Is Disability Culture: http://dsq-sds.org/article/view/343/433
Opioids
CDC Admits Prescription Opioid Deaths Significantly Inflated:
https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2018/3/21/cdc-admits-rx-opioid-deaths-significantly-inflated
The Myth of the Opioid Addicted Chronic Pain Patient:
Tools
Arthritis Weather Index: https://www.arthritis.org/living-with-arthritis/tools-resources/weather/
Medical Info Packet Template (by Kelly Monck): https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B6Tdv_SaO44eQ2k5REhmZVBVY1k/view
(Explicit) Sex Products That Assist with Disabilities (Position Enhancers): http://adultlifestylecentres.com.au/sex-products-that-assist-with-disabilities-position-enhancers.html
Ehlers Danlos Syndrome Wallet Card: https://ehlers-danlos.com/wp-content/uploads/walletcard.pdf
Interactive Flow Chart for When You Are Struggling with Self-Care: http://www.philome.la/jace_harr/you-feel-like-shit-an-interactive-self-care-guide/play
No Limits Showcase
Dancing in a Wheelchair: https://www.facebook.com/DancersGotTalent/videos/129679364371635/
Extreme Wheelchair-ing: https://www.facebook.com/pollyfonika/videos/10152559293686083/
This Burlesque Dancer Slays in Her Wheelchair: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HpyxeR9vL_8
Medical Stuff
A Doctor’s View of Patients with Chronic Pain Disease (I highly recommend this article): https://naidw.org/blog/members-myblogs/a-doctor-s-view-of-patients-with-chronic-pain-disease
What is Craniocervical Instability?: http://www.thepainrelieffoundation.com/craniocervical-instability/
Breaking the Cycle of Chronic Pain, Poor Sleep, Depression and Fatigue - Dr. Alan Pocinki: https://vimeo.com/101947622
Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome: An Emerging Challenge for Pain Management: https://www.practicalpainmanagement.com/pain/neuropathic/ehlers-danlos-syndrome-emerging-challenge-pain-management
ER Safety Tips for Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome Patients: https://www.painnewsnetwork.org/stories/2017/12/13/er-safety-tips-for-ehlers-danlos-patients
Self-Care
This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths And Chocolate Cake: https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2017/11/this-is-what-self-care-really-means-because-its-not-all-salt-baths-and-chocolate-cake/
Are You Chronically Ill? Don’t Make Things Worse!: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-gold/201801/are-you-chronically-ill-don-t-make-things-worse
Bad at remembering to take care of yourself? These 25 tips can make it almost automatic: http://www.upworthy.com/bad-at-remembering-to-take-care-of-yourself-these-25-tips-can-make-it-almost-automatic
Humor
How To Be Disabled, According to Stock Photography: https://www.autostraddle.com/how-to-be-disabled-according-to-stock-photography-368144/
Recommended Books
Anything by Brené Brown, Ph.D., especially:
- Rising Strong
- The Gifts of Imperfection
- Men, Women and Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough (only available as an audiobook)
Anything by Bruce D. Schneider, especially:
- Energy Leadership: Transforming Your Workplace and Your Life from the Core
- Uncovering the Life of Your Dreams: An Enlightening Story
Taming Your Gremlin: A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way
by Rick Carson
The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life You Want
by Joseph J. Luciani
General Coaching Stuff
Suggested Reading List of the World’s Greatest Coaches: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1HEdSF0C1PSqQQpsqMhxx0idWH9L8yJhPUPTx590Vf6A/htmlview#gid=1303721264
How Complaining Rewires Your Brain for Negativity: https://www.facebook.com/TruthTheory/videos/10155131373955482/
Wayne Dyer – An Experiment (Demonstration of impact of negative thoughts): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4FoYZKZVxFg
The Case for Cursing: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/27/smarter-living/the-case-for-cursing.html
The Right Coach for You
Obviously, I’m not the right fit for everyone.
And I want you to be successful… even if that means working with a different coach.
So, here’s some information to help you choose the right one for you:
A qualified coach:
- Maintains confidentiality and ethical boundaries
- Has completed training and/or certification from an accredited coach training program
- Knows that you have all your own answers and are the expert on your own life
- Is supportive and positive, while challenging you to stretch and grow
Indicators of a “Good Fit”:
- Interactions feel natural and easy
- Your gut says you can trust the person
- You feel respected, valued, and supported
- You feel safe enough to step out of your comfort zone
- You gain a new perspective from talking with them, and can see old issues in new ways
Red Flags! An effective coach DOES NOT:
- Act like your friend. A coach is a professional change expert that you are paying to support you in ways that friends and family can’t
- Give you advice or tell you what to do
- Tell you what worked for them
- Judge you, belittle you, and/or invalidate your experience
- Use phrases like:
- “It’s not that bad…”
- “At least it’s not…”
- “You should be grateful that…”
- “You just need to…”
- “You should try…”
A coaching relationship is a dynamic partnership that is powerful and life changing. I’ve worked with many of my own coaches over the years, and I can say unequivocally that a good coach is worth every penny. If I’m not the right fit for you, I’d be happy to reach out to my network to find some other options for you to explore.